This is one of the most important questions when it comes to romantic relationships. A great number of studies that have been conducted prove that we really can control love. Because in general, this is just a basic psychological emotion like fear, joy, pity, and other emotions that can be regulated if they are monitored well. So, how do we use psychology and psychological tricks to learn to make others fall in love with us?
we had found out that, in fact, love is not about “fate.” This is a collaboration of biological, chemical, and psychological mechanisms. It is possible to find the right approach to these and use them for your own purposes.
The most important thing you need to understand is that the other person must at least have minimal feelings for you. Then, you will be able to turn these into real, deep feelings, easily and quickly.
Social psychologist John Bargh who works at Yale University studies the role of unconscious processing on social behavior. Some of his studies found an interesting connection between the body temperature of a person and their psychological state.
It turned out that when we are physically warm, we are more likely to be nice and friendly to other people. This trick may really come in handy, for example, during a first date when it’s especially important to gain the person’s trust. So remember this and make sure that in the future you choose only warm places, foods, and drinks so that every meeting you have (both romantic and business-related) goes well.
7. The advantages of extended eye contact
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin conducted a study to try to understand if it’s possible to measure love. He found the answer in the eyes, or more specifically, in the frequency and duration that people look at each other. He found that that couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75% of the time during a conversation and that they stop looking at each other reluctantly. In a normal conversation, people look at each other from 30% to 60% of the time.
However, looking into someone’s eyes may not only be a consequence of being in love but it could be the reason. When you look at someone for a long time and you do it frequently, you trick the person’s mind because it remembers what the “love look” is. So, it starts thinking romantically about you. The nervous system starts producing phenethylamine which causes the sensations that we have when we fall in love: “butterflies in the stomach,” an increased heart rate, warm palms. How could anyone resist?